Men's Ministry Honesty

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January 3, 2013

I was preparing to write a blog post about being a “real man” this past weekend. I went up the mountain and chopped some wood. Woo hoo.

But as I sat down to write, I couldn’t write it. My mind kept calling “BS.” It wouldn’t let me get away with it. So I’m going to allow you a peek behind the curtain, kick myself for being so arrogant in 2012, and introduce you to my theme for 2013:


Let’s start out by explaining my “Real Man” activity. Yes, I was chopping some wood for our fireplace, a chore that needed to get done – but what I was really doing was escaping.

Escaping a Sunday morning in a house full of frustration and shouting.

I replaced a man’s duty with a false manly chore. I thought I would get dirty, do some physical activity, and feel like a “real man” by chopping some wood. But in essence I left my home, my responsibility, and my family when they needed me.

I should have stuck around. Improved the situation. Helped. Loved.

So I have that off my chest. Starting 2013 with some honesty. My life isn’t perfect. I’m doing my best.

I’ve written before about my quest for real, raw honesty but now I’m devoting a whole year to it. Let’s see if I have any friends left by 2014.

But really, I’ve got to be honest with those around me. I’ve got a voice and I’m going to use it. And I’m going to be more honest on this blog because sometimes I write from the point of view of someone who’s got it all together. And the truth is, I don’t. Usually, if I’m writing something, it’s because I just learned it or it’s an ideal that I’m striving for.

Not because I’m some expert on it. Because I’m not.

I’m just a guy who wants to use his passions to serve others.


  • Evan Dawson

    Love this one, Dave! So tired of seeing lives destroyed by lies men live.

    • Dave Hearn

      Thanks Evan.  

  • Steven Gower

    It’s much easier to escape – I know. “You shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free.” Thank you for your exemplary attitude towards life!

    • Dave Hearn

      It’s funny how we can justify filling our lives with “busy work” when there are more pressing responsibilities…  

      Thanks Steve.

  • Zach Schanzenbach

    Honesty is definitely something to strive for. I’m not one to lie since God says not to (and I’m not very good at it, so there), but I do need to work to be honest. I think what holds me back is that I’m still living under my parents’ authority, so something I do or say that they don’t like could land me in hot water, even if it’s the right thing to do. If I make the effort to exhibit raw honesty this year, I wonder how many friends I’ll have left and where I’ll be living. :P

  • Burtamus Maximus

    Thanks for the transparency bro.

  • Bryan Van Slyke

    You nailed it brother! Honesty is a great theme and it should be a theme for all men. If anything you’ll probably end up with more friends and more support in the end. Keep it up!

    • Dave Hearn

      We will see! :^)

  • Bruce Dawson

    Dave, Great blog! Here’s to your year of honesty. I personality think you may have it more together than you even realize. My best to everyone at G42. I was in Malaysia until last night, and two of our World Racers were saying they may be heading your way as their next step.

    • Dave Hearn

      Thanks Bruce, I need to always work on this one…. but thanks for the encouragement. I hope you and your squad are having a blast!

  • James Uthe

    Dave, this post is about being a “real man!” Not by the world’s standards by any means, but definitely by God’s standards of committing yourself to a life of integrity! Praying that as you continue to be honest with yourself and on this blog, fellas would read, understand, and be inspired by the Holy Spirit and your example to lead a life of honesty and integrity as they pursue being a “real man.”